Learn From Those Who've Been Where You Are

Introduction

It’s easy to idolize those at the pinnacle of success—the trailblazers who have achieved greatness in their fields. While their stories are inspiring, they can sometimes feel distant and unattainable. How did they overcome the struggles you’re facing right now? What did they do when they were in your shoes?

In this article, we'll explore the value of having relatable role models—those who’ve faced similar challenges and walked a path like yours to find practical and actionable insights to emulate.

Prerequisites

This principle will resonate with you if you’ve had any of the following experiences:

• Wanted to be more successful by learning from others.
• Felt overwhelmed when comparing yourself to highly successful people.
• Seeked practical, actionable advice tailored to where you are now.

Why Mentors and Role Models Matter

Most of the goals we aim to achieve have already been attempted by someone else. Why not learn from their wins and mistakes? A good mentor or role model can save you time, effort, and frustration by providing a proven path forward. Their stories give us a glimpse into what works, what doesn’t, and how to navigate challenges effectively.

In today’s internet-driven world, finding role models and mentors has never been easier. Blogs, vlogs, podcasts, and online communities give you access to insights from people who’ve been where you are. This wealth of documented experiences allows you to learn from a variety of perspectives, pick what resonates, and create a path that’s uniquely yours.

Why Relatable Mentorship Matters

Every master was once a beginner. The key is to learn how they made it by studying their early steps, adapting them to your journey, and taking intentional action. With the abundance of mentorship and content available today, you’re never far from the guidance you need.

Actionable and Relevant Advice

Learning from someone who has recently been in your shoes makes their advice more practical and easier to apply. Their strategies are grounded in challenges you currently face, providing step-by-step guidance.

Builds Confidence

Seeing someone who was recently where you are—and is now a few steps ahead—reminds you that progress is achievable. It helps you believe that others have overcome similar struggles and so can you.

Less Overwhelming

Looking up to someone at the peak of their career can be inspiring but also intimidating. Their solutions may no longer apply to your stage, making their success feel out of reach. Relatable mentors show you what’s possible right now and offer advice that feels attainable.

How to Learn From Relatable Role Models

Here are some practical ways to apply this principle:

1. Identify Relatable Role Models

Seek out people who’ve done what you want to do. Ideally, find someone who recently achieved what you’re aiming for—the closer their journey is to your current stage, the better.

If you’re just starting a business, try to find someone who recently launched theirs, not someone running a billion-dollar corporation.

2. Study the Stage That Fits You

If your role model is now far ahead of where you are, focus on what they did when they were at your stage.

Ask, if they were in your shoes:

• How would they spend their time?
• How would they react to situations?
• What is their problem solving process?

Look for books, interviews, or content where they share insights about their journey.

If you admire a successful author, learn how they handled their first draft or dealt with rejection letters—not how they manage bestseller launches today.

3. Connect When Possible

Thanks to the digital age, mentorship is more accessible than ever. Many people share their journeys online through social media, blogs, or podcasts.

Follow their platforms, engage with their content, and join their communities. Don’t hesitate to ask thoughtful questions—they may be willing to share personalized advice.

Comment on their posts or attend live Q&A sessions to learn directly from their experience.

Related Programs

This principle is especially relevant to Perspective 4: Belonging, where we aim to take intentional steps toward success by learning from others who are like us.

Notable Mentions

• Be Intentional: This program helps you keep track of your role models and easily access relevant content useful to your situation right now.